We are going crazy, people. We are wearing ourselves thin trying to create the smartest and funniest and most brilliant kid on the planet. Our kids are getting burned out, beat down and stressed by our constant pressure on them to achieve, achieve, achieve.
We’re teaching our kids to read at 2. Starting sports at 3. Elementary summers are spent in academic classes. Our kids are competing for college scholarships through club sports at the ripe old age of 11.
We want our kid to be the one who does it earliest and who does it best. But at what cost?
When we will recognize that brilliance can’t be forced? When will we see that each child has natural talent and that it will emerge in it’s own time?
When will we stop and let our kids be kids again?
I’m not against reading early or playing competitive sports. In fact, our 13 year old teen plays club volleyball.
But it does not rule her life. And her worth is not defined by how she plays in a game.
I believe that all of my children are gifted and brilliant and, quite frankly, the most amazing people on the planet.
I also believe that they are children. And that means they need to run and laugh and play and have free time and wear clothes that don’t match. That means that sometimes my teen will get to sleep until noon and sometimes my toddlers will get to run around naked. Because they are kids.
We need to set our kids free from the pressure to be the best. We need to set them free to find themselves and to enjoy their time as children. We need to set them free so that they can try new things just because they want to.
Our kids need to be able to fail. Growth happens in failure. Until we let them fail, they are never going to be as great as they could be.
Let’s all take a deep breath and chill out. They’re going to turn out just fine.
I’d love to hear from you. What kind of crazy, stressed out insanity have you seen? Do you have any ideas for how to stay calm in the midst of the craziness?